The holidays are here and we all have expectations that we don’t even realize until they cause conflict. For example, suppose you’re spending your first Christmas together as newlyweds and your spouse just came home with tons of decorations for the house. You’re not only thinking about the budget but you are feeling you haven’t even been consulted about the decorations such as the type, color, placement etc. All of a sudden you are feeling angry and you are not even sure why. Your spouse is thinking this is what he/she has always done and can’t understand why you are so upset.